This final chapter in Proverbs presents the virtuous woman and we need not be intimidated or run away from this impressive list of accomplishments. You may say, “But I’m a single woman – not married. I don’t have children.” These verses are for you as well. Why, you may ask? Because of the bottom line – read verse 30.
“Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” ~Proverbs 31:30
Look to the Lord, clothe yourself in His presence, and embrace the true identity that He has given to you. Live today as a daughter who walks hand in the hand with her heavenly Father.
Some people read one chapter each day from the book of Proverbs to infuse their lives with the nuggets of great wisdom presented here. As we finish reading this important piece of wisdom literature, I want to thank you for reading our Women of the Word blog. It’s our desire to encourage you in your daily walk with the Lord and share some practical insights pertaining to God’s Word. Each one of us has a different calling as well as a wide variety of circumstances that touch our lives. I’m thankful for Denisse’s post that shares her perspective as a wife and stay-at-home mother.
Brenda McCord, Editor
“You’re the best cook in the world,” my youngest said with a big smile. “I know you think the Pioneer Woman is the best cook, but I think you are, Mommy.” My heart melted. We were in the kitchen together on Saturday morning. He wanted to make pancakes. It was as good a time as any to teach him.
It still surprises me. It shouldn’t. After all these years, God continues to meet me exactly where I am. Just last week, I was telling my husband I struggle with what my purpose is. I’m a stay-at-home mom with school age kids, who happen to be starting school again. What am I supposed to do for the Lord? Maybe I’m not supposed to be a writer after all. Maybe I’m not going to do something big to impact the world. Maybe all I’m supposed to do is love and take care of my little family. As I said this through tears, part of me felt disappointed. All I get to do is love and take care of my family? It didn’t seem like much. It didn’t seem like enough. How am I serving the Lord?
God didn’t leave me with an unfulfilled description of my role. In His loving kindness He has continued to teach me through Proverbs 31, even though I’ve read it many, many times. If you haven’t read it, I highly encourage you to read verses ten through thirty-one. As I read verse by verse, He revealed what a “worthy” woman looks like.
Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she smiles at the future. She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and bless her. ~Proverbs 31:25-28
This woman loves the Lord. She is wise. Her focus is on her family. Her husband and children love her. She teaches them kindly. She plans. She works hard, but she doesn’t seem to mind. I get the impression she does it all with a joyful heart. This is the woman I want to be.
I know what you are thinking. This woman doesn’t exist. This woman lived many years ago! We don’t buy fields and use the earnings for a vineyard these days. We don’t have to make our own clothing, and I sure don’t have maidens to provide for. How can the description of this godly woman help us today?
My modern day description sounds something like this:
“She gets up early to make and pack lunches for her children. She does the laundry to be sure her husband and children have clean clothes to wear everyday. She cooks dinner and washes the dishes. (She picks up Chick-fil-a for dinner sometimes!) She stays up late to wait for the best online sales to save her family money. She signs up to help in their classrooms. She pays their bills online.“
So, if this is what a modern worthy woman might do today, I might actually be doing some things right! I do these and more! Like other moms, I read with my children. I help them with homework. I kiss their boo boos. I make sure they get to bed on time. I make sure they have clothes that fit them. I make sure they have a coat when it’s cold. I wash the shirt they need to wear tomorrow… when they remember they need it at 10pm! I drive them to their sports’ practices and games. The list goes on and on.
For my husband, I like to keep things tidy. I make sure to buy his favorite LaCroix drinks. I know he likes peanut butter granola bars, so I make sure to keep our pantry stocked. I take care of our kids’ needs so he can focus on his work. I open our home to family and friends. I encourage our family to volunteer and serve our community.
The Proverbs 31 woman may look different today, but her priorities are still the same. I’ve always wanted to be like her, and I’m realizing that maybe I AM stepping in the right direction! She is YOU. She is ME. What a privilege it is for me to take care of my family! What an honor that God chose YOU to take care of yours!
Think about a Proverbs 31 Woman you look up to. What do you admire about her life? How does she serve and love others?
I’ve been lucky enough to know some godly women in my life. These women are not superheroes. They aren’t writers or speakers. Most of them did not even have jobs outside of their homes. They are not perfect. Actually, the thing they have in common is that they are wives and mothers, even grandmothers. I admire them because of how they live their lives. They love and care for their families well. They are involved. They are kind. They are real. We can all be Proverbs 31 women right where we are.